What happens at halfway?

JuneAs the calendar flipped over to June,  I began reviewing where I am so far this year on my intentions and goals for 2014. The halfway point is nearly here and that’s a critical point in any endeavor.

Here are three reasons the half-way point is a valuable milestone:

1)  We have more behind than ahead of us which can be an added push element.  For example, if I’m in a challenge to do something every day, week or month for a specific period of time, when the numbers completed are greater than those left to go, a successful finish becomes more real.

2)  If the obstacles have been great, the half-way mark can be where we throw up our hands and quit if our motivation isn’t strong enough to mandate an innovated approach to turning things around. Here is the power of hope in our quest. If we don’t require ourselves to believe with active faith, we will see the road ahead just like the road behind and discouragement can be our nemesis.

3)  If we’re ahead of our pace, the half-way mark can be where we up our game and make a commitment to a stronger finish. While this can be a great motivator and in many cases is exactly the right response, we also have to recognize that celebrating our progress and allowing it to be enough for the day is also part of building self-confidence for other goals as well.

Recently, I have been reflecting on what has made the most difference throughout history where there were significant shifts and change that has profoundly impacted us today.  It is clear that while the specifics were varied, the basic principles remained true.  The same initial three elements were in play: a vision, a decision and action.  The game changer though is in the fourth element:  Commitment.  You can substitute many words here such as discipline, resolve, perseverance even integrity. But it all comes down to the same thing. We must stay with it to finish it.

As we’re coming to the halfway point of 2014, here are some words of wisdom to inspire and motivate us on to success:

“It’s not enough to do our best; sometimes we have to do what’s required.” (Winston Churchill)

“It’s not what you are going to do, but it’s what you are doing now that counts.”  (Napoleon Hill)

“Success is the doing, not the getting; in the trying, not the triumph. Success is a personal standard, reaching for the highest that is in us, becoming all that we can be.” (Zig Ziglar)

And with the quotes, there is always a question in order to put them to work. Here is the one that I ask everyday:

“How am I going to live today in order to create the tomorrow I’m committed to?” (Tony Robbins)

 

 

 

Coaching Insight: 3 Steps to a Healthy Mindset

Over the past few years I have invested thousands of hours into researching how people are able to effectively grow and change.  After all, we know that success leaves clues and being able to grow is the most elemental change we can experience in our lives. My research included hundreds of interviews, listening to recordings from thought leaders and reading scores of books written by experts on change and personal development.  It has also included observation within my own life and working with clients as a life coach. And what I have confirmed is that everything begins with our mindset.

Believe You Can You're Halfway There Words Saying QuoteEarl Nightingale stated it this way:  “We become what we think about”.  Jim Rohn taught that before you can accomplish anything you must first believe it is possible and then believe it is possible for you.

One of William James’ most quoted lines is this: “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” And from the Bible in Mark 9:23: “If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth.”

It’s clear that unless we believe, we are not going to achieve.

Given the importance then of mindset, how do we proactively create one that is healthy and in tune with our vision and mission? I believe that there are three essential steps that make this possible.

Step 1:  Make peace with the past.   Here is where we usually trip up first.  We limit our future based on our past.  Our past is meant to prepare us for the future, not predict it.  In fact, some of the greatest achievers now and from history are those that have used challenges in their past to propel them to a better life.  We must make peace with our past.  The steps for that can vary but in essence, it involves achieving a state of grace through forgiveness of ourselves and others so that we can live from a place of gratitude.

Step 2:  Be honest about the present and take responsibility for it.  Personal responsibility is a significant factor for personal growth.  As long as we play the blame game, we are in fact imprisoning ourselves as a victim.  We live “at the mercy” of circumstances or other people.  Once we are honest about where we are and take responsibility for our life and everything in it, we are in actuality empowering ourselves to change it.

Step 3:  Act based on faith in the future.  It is not enough to have hope.  Hope means we “might” succeed. It’s enough to start, but it won’t be enough to finish.  Faith means we believe that we will.  It means we won’t accept anything less.

Three steps to a healthy mindset.  Sounds simple and yet it isn’t always easy.  Because we’ve had years of practice thinking the way we think now.  We’ve had years to let limiting beliefs and judgments cloud our vision.  But it’s where we must start.  We must set a new mindset.  A new expectation that we allow to become a core belief

Think about this for yourself.  In what area of your life would you most like to experience growth in the next 90 days?  What growth would you like to see?

Do you believe it’s possible?

Do you believe it’s possible for you?

Then you’re ready!  The first hurdle is behind you.  If not, I’d like to help.  Because you matter to me.  And your life matters to others as well, now and for many generations to follow.

Think well to live well.

The gift of a great idea…

When you begin to dwell in possibility and become open to seeing ideas in some unlikely places, life begins to take on the character of a treasure hunt.  Where will the next idea be found?  Is it here just under this skill?  Is it over there just beside that knowledge?  Once your thought patterns shift, each interaction becomes an opportunity to stumble upon that next great idea for you to bring value to your market.

This has without question been the greatest surprise for me on the pathway of possibility.  Sitting in a theatre watching a film and dialogue  prompts an idea for a blog post or an article.  Out comes the notepad and pencil and in the dark I capture those few precious words that will bring that moment of inspiration back to mind when I sit down to write.

I read a news story and think “my mastermind group really needs to hear this” and before you know it, that story is winging its way through cyber-space to touch another person’s life.

It is this ability to recognize an idea when it crosses our mental horizons that sparks a life based on possibility.  But it is the action taken that converts that idea into real value.  What has been amazing to me is how powerful the action of simply writing down the idea can be to setting off a series of actions that will bring them to life.  That simple step of just writing it down can make all of the difference.

Get your journal!  Opportunity beckons.  The gift of a great idea is on its way.  Are you ready?

Abracadabra: The Power of Words

Anyone who has watched a magician perform has heard the word abracadabra.  It is indelibly linked to transformation.  Magical change.

According to Wikipedia, its origins are in the Aramaic language.  The original word has two parts:  “ibra” which means “I have created” and “k’dibra” which means “through my speech”.

How fantastic that one of the most well known words associated with transformational magic means “I have created through my speech”. 

As a writer, it is always my desire to illustrate, to instruct, to inspire, to entertain.  As a reader, it is my desire to experience the same in return.

The telling of the story, even within non-fiction is like being the unseen tour guide that transports someone from where they are to another place.  When reading fiction, that is essential.  We want to be transported – to another place, another life, another world.

While reading non-fiction may be more akin to being transformed, it still transports us to a new place.  In either case, what we read is as powerful as an “abracadabra” experience.

Whether we are fully aware of it or not, the written information we take in does influence the way we think, believe, speak and act.  The words of others can help us see other points of view.  And to see (and hear..) not only new thoughts, but new ways of expressing old thoughts.

New words, new phrases, new points of view.  In every genre, that is the case.

What will you create through your speech?  Unleash your inner magician.   Write.  Speak.  Create.

 

 

Coaching insight: What’s your baseline?

There is wonderful insight in this quote from happiness expert and author Doe Zantamata:

Measuring Growth“If your parents ever measured you as a child, they had you stand against a wall, and made a little pencil mark on the wall to show your growth. They did not measure you against your brother, or the neighbor’s kids, or kids on TV. When you measure your growth, make sure to only measure your today self by your past self. If you compare your relationships, your success, or your anything against anyone else, you are not being fair to you. Everyone has a different path, a different pace, and different challenges to face along the way.”

When we really take the truth of this in and understand it, we also begin to understand the power that lies in what is uniquely “us”.  Just as others have their own path, we too have our own and that means we also bring our own contribution to the world. So measure away.. just be certain that you’re measuring to the right baseline.  And remember, it is far better to create (grow) than to compete. Imagine that world!