What a difference a day makes…

 

Holiday Calendar. New year dayJanuary 2, 2014 – Just another day on the calendar. Nothing unique about this date which is quite a change when you think about all of the focus we gave to yesterday.  Today is when the routine of reality begins to collide with the promises we made for the New Year.  All of those resolutions, choosing of focus words, creation of goals and great intentions are now put to the test.

Because today is just another day on the calendar and our old habits do not know we made all of these new promises.

Old habits are the result of our mindset.  And our mindset works like a thermostat for setting the patterns of our life.  That makes today far more important than yesterday. All days may be created equal, but that is not how they are invested. And the first lesson of faithful is that when it comes to “days”, none is more important than today.

So how do we overcome the gap between the promises we made on January 1st and the realities of January 2nd? How do we create an environment that encourages our success? How do we set ourselves up to keep our promises? To actually live our promise?

The key is recognizing the value of the how we are investing our time, our days.  When was the last time you logged your activities? I’m not talking about just what you enter into your calendar.  This involves everything you do.  If it’s been awhile, that may be a good thing for you to consider doing in these first few days of 2014.  Why? Because we aren’t going to change what we aren’t aware is happening.

Self awareness is the first step to personal development and achieving all of those goals we have set for ourselves.  When I work with clients that want to stop thinking about success and truly start to achieve it, this is where we begin.  Getting a defined starting point is the key to creating the right itinerary for our journey.

Doing the exercise is simple enough.  Just start when you get up and each time you change your activity, log it.  If you use a smart phone – you can use that to log it.  If not – just have a small notebook.  Make certain that you log EVERY activity and the starting time.  You do not have to put an ending time – just a start time.  And remember.  This is for YOUR EYES ONLY.  This isn’t anything you would ever need to show anyone else.  It also isn’t about later judgment.  Even for yourself.  It is just logging what you are doing over the course of a day.  If you can manage a few days – that would be even better in terms of the value you can get from this.  My suggestion is to start on a Thursday or Friday and continue to Monday or Tuesday depending on when you started.  So get five days of logging that include 2 or 3 normal week days and your weekend.

If you are like most of us, there are going to be some surprises in store.  Some will bolster confidence, some will become the motivation you need to take some controls back on your time.  But the insights overall will be priceless.  Think of this as a gift you are giving yourself.  And look forward to seeing the results! Because it is all about your success and seeing for yourself what a difference a day makes!

“All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them.” Galileo Galilei

“People are usually more convinced by reasons they discovered themselves than by those found by others.” Blaise Pascal

“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day of the year.”  Ralph Waldo Emerson

What’s in a word or 2 or 20? Or perhaps 500?

digits  on the sandEach year now for several years I have made it a practice to choose one word that will be my central philosophical focus for the year.   The practice has served  me  well.  Last year my word was GRATITUDE.  My focus was living from a place of grace.  Finding the gift in every situation, the grace in every exchange.  What an amazing difference that made and continues to make.  What is important to know is that I chose the word at a time when it was a challenge to accept as my true mantra.  But I claimed it and practiced it. And then it claimed me.  It is what I have come to believe to be the only true “positive” thinking we can achieve.  To be grateful. For it all.

As I was reflecting on what my life word would be for 2014 I decided to re-visit what I wrote on the first day of 2013.  Here is a portion of that post:

“One of the lessons I have learned is that we can’t always wait for change to find us.  Even in this time of such overwhelming opportunity.  Sometimes we need to become the architect of the change, the growth we need.  After all, whatever we become, we will still be our unique selves, more evolved, hopefully wiser.  But still ourselves.”

Going back and reading the words after 2013 is now behind me brought to light that one of the lessons of this past year was the counter-point to this.  Sometimes we need to wait and allow change to happen. I will admit that I struggle with this.  I’m not a patient person.  I want things done.  Now.  The realization and shift for me was that by not allowing some time for my life soup to simmer a bit I was in fact rushing past incredible opportunities and joy.

Sometimes the BEST is something unknown yet to us.  I am grateful that I was led to the path that now allows a balance of patience and persistence.  One of my favorite quotes on the subject comes from Criss Jami: “The common man prays, ‘I want a cookie right now!’ And God responds, ‘If you’d listen to what I say, tomorrow it will bring you 100 cookies.”

The result for me was being able to focus on the day, just the day.  The work to be done this day.  The love to be given this day.  The lessons to be learned this day.  The most incredible and intricate tapestries can only happen one stitch at a time.  The most beautiful and inspiring works of art are created one stroke at a time.  The most soul stretching melodies are written one note at a time.  And so it is with our lives.  We live them not in years but in days, even in moments. To have the tomorrow that we want, we must live it today.  Live today like you want tomorrow to be.  That was a  transformational lesson for me in the past year and what I take with me into 2014.

And from this my life word has found me:  FAITHFUL.  To be faithful.  I am grateful for all of the lessons and blessings in my life.  But to be truly grateful, means that I must also live faithfully to my promise.  Therein lies the true power source of an incredible life.  Gratitude for God’s promises.  Being faithful to my promises.  Every day.

And so the journey goes on as I continue to grow and evolve.  My focus is different now.  It is about making and keeping the right promises.  Each day.

“Being faithful in the smallest things is the way to gain, maintain, and demonstrate the strength needed to accomplish something great.” (Alex Harris)

You are invited to join me here and to share the journey.  Come explore with me what it means to be faithful and to live without regret.  The writings themselves will be a promise to be faithful.  To bring you 500 words or more each day of January.  That is my first promise.  What will your first promise be for 2014?

 

 

 

 

 

 

A Year of Grateful Living

2014 new year signAt the beginning of 2013 there were a number of things happening in my life and in the lives of those dear to me that were hard.  Whether the word used to describe them is challenges, tough times, lessons or any other of the terms that could be used (and would be true), what is universally correct is that they were hard.  And they weren’t situations that would just disappear overnight.

Stretched before us were months and perhaps even years of “hard”.   Outcomes could not be known.  It seemed that all we could do was take it one day at a time and keep moving through life.  But there was something more we could do, that I could do.  We could claim gratitude.  I could practice gratitude.  In everything.  Even the things that were hard.

As we near the end of 2013, while some of the “hard” things remain they no longer feel quite so immense.  Just being grateful has moved many from the “hard” column to the “now possible” column. And beyond the circumstance we all have that choice.  How will we see it?  How will we feel about it?  It’s not a simple matter of response.  It gets into our emotions and core.  Our personal energy is either provisioned or depleted.  All by our choice of feeling.  So many lessons have come from this past year.  And so many gifts have found their way to my door.  How they arrived may have appeared otherwise but once unwrapped – the gifts were all of grace.

Over the remaining days of 2013,  I will be sharing here some of the best and the brightest of those gifts.  And so on this day – this first day of acknowledging the many gifts of 2013 let me start with you.  Thank you to those that have joined me here.  My life has been richly blessed by our friendships – new and old!

What gifts have come your way in 2013?  Let’s all practice gratitude together and share the joy!

How leaders are remembered…

lifeAny time that one of the truly great leaders of our time leaves us it is fitting to pause and celebrate their contribution to the world.  It is also important within that reflection to think about and be grateful for the lessons that have generated meaningful change impacting us personally.

Today we mourn the passing of Nelson Mandela and celebrate his life and what it meant to so many.  As one of his many life students, I continue to be grateful that I lived in the time of Nelson Mandela and was here to witness his remarkable impact. His ability to forgive and love; the inspiration he delivered to all; his passionate commitment to freedom; and his true understanding of the power of education all forged together to create an indelible legacy.

Here are six of my favorite quotes from him that have given me inspiration and speak beyond what is true to express truth:

Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.

Money won’t create success, the freedom to make it will.

For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.

It always seems impossible until it’s done.

There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.

A remarkable person that in living his legacy has changed us all.

 

Coaching insight: 10 Essentials for Living “Well” Starting Today

body, mind, soul, spirit and you on blackboardPart of any personal development plan is the prioritization of self-care.  Taking responsibility for our overall well-being physically is an important first step in being able to function at optimal levels beyond the physical.  Why? Because our mental, emotional and even spiritual “self” is either supported or diluted by our physical “self”.

The reason it’s important to focus first on the “prioritization” of this is because we all know what we need to do.  And on some level, we all want to do the right things.

In fact, studies show that living “well” is one of the most highly coveted aspirations we share.  Over 85% of us start each year with a resolution that deals with personal improvement in some area of our life.  38% of us have identified health and wellness specifically as where we want to improve.  Unfortunately, these resolutions are also the ones that carry the highest fail rates for success.

So when Nicole Bandes invited me to participate in a series of blog posts specific to self-care it was an easy “yes”!  The request was to provide a list of “10” essentials.  As you will see, mine doesn’t conform to the typical “health & wellness” top ten list.  There’s nothing there about achieving your ideal weight or telling you how many servings of vegetables you need.  I’ll leave that kind of instruction to the experts.  The list I contributed is about the framework.  It’s about you and your lifestyle.  Because it’s the framework that is going to drive success that is sustainable.

Here is my list:

1)      Set the right goals (Get these right.. the rest will follow!)

2)      Recognize hype and don’t fall for it (Enough said…)

3)      Choose your friends carefully (This one may be surprising..)

4)      Hydrate! Hydrate! Hydrate! (Enough said…)

5)      Know what you’re consuming  (This isn’t just about the food we eat…)

6)      Set yourself up for success with the right tools (Where we often fail…& the easiest to fix!)

7)      Log your key activities (Write it down…)

8)      Track your progress (Review the results..)

9)      Begin each day with an essential health activity (BEGIN – do it FIRST!)

10)   Renew your commitment to your health daily (This is about today. Yesterday is done and tomorrow is waiting.  This is today.)

To learn more,  you can read the entire post here and also check out some of the other articles and contributors.

After reading the article, think about which of these ten are where you are the most vulnerable.  Start there.  Make that your first essential health activity.  Renew that commitment daily.

And then create your own list.  I’d love to hear from you about what yours looks like! Be sure and check back as I share more information here about my own journey to my best self in an effort to come along side you in your own.

Always remember:  Live today like you want tomorrow to be.  And that’s what it will be.