Honesty & Integrity: Where it all begins..

February 19, 2013 By
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When someone holds the torch for us so that we can clearly see our way, they give us a gift beyond anything they or we could imagine.  They give us the opportunity to see truth.

One person who has done that for so many is Debbie Ford.  Sadly, we lost her physical light in 2013 but her legacy light lives on.

For me, this short clip from her on honesty and integrity sums up the foundation of her message very clearly.  We must first be honest with ourselves.  And only then can we love ourselves.  Our total self.  Her voice and teachings have raised thousands to an unparalleled level of spiritual and personal awareness.

She learned to live in peace and love.  For herself and her world.  I have no doubt that she will continue on the same way.

Godspeed Debbie Ford.

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Integrity & Discipline: Two Halfs of the Whole

February 8, 2013 By
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Integrity=Disciipline=Keeping PromisesIntegrity is about following through on our words consistently with our actions. Our words are the “promise”.  Our actions are the “performance”.  To have integrity, the promise and performance need to match.

That is true, even when the promise is to ourselves.  Can you relate to that?  Have you ever made a promise to yourself and not followed through?

Does it seem like the priorities and commitments you make for YOU seem to drift to the bottom of the never-ending “to-do” list?

If I say that I value good health but I do not act in the best interest of my health, then I have an integrity issue.  If I say that I value financial freedom but I do not practice good financial disciplines, then I have an integrity issue.  If I say that I value relationships but I do not invest in them, I have an integrity issue.

We cannot give (or teach) what we do not have (or live).  Before we make promises to others, we need to look at the promises we have made to ourselves.

What promises are we making to ourselves that foster our growth?  Are we keeping them? What promises are we making to others to foster their growth? Are we keeping them?

Integrity and discpline are twin spirits.  One is reflected by the other.  Brian Tracy said it best when he defined discipline as “doing what you resolve to do”.  Isn’t that also integrity?  We do what we resolve to do.  We keep our promises.  To ourselves first and then to others.

 

 

 

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Breaking through…

February 7, 2013 By
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At times, our lives just stream by and we fail to pause and reflect on whether or not we are where we want to be.  We quite simply are where our lives have brought us.  The idea of taking back the reins of our lives seems like one of those ideal images of the future rather than what we can have right now.  Responsibilities, obligations, commitments or any other tag we put on the “stuff” that fills our calendars and days have become more like strictures rather than structure.

When I need to re-center and bring my best self back into focus so that I can function with the highest levels of creativity and purpose, I look to these ten principals to guide me:

  1. The only rules that apply are those that I have accepted.  By accepting (or not accepting) any guidelines, I am also accepting responsibility for my choices.
  2. Fear is not a bad thing.  Fear is a healthy thing.  Because it means I respect what I am undertaking:  Respect of consequences and acceptance of responsibility.  Taking action with accountability makes fear a friend, a guidepost for where I need to pay attention.
  3. Fun is a good thing.  I aspire always to have more fun in everything I do.
  4. My vision for the future is my decision touchstone. I recognize that what I do today is forming my tomorrow.  I do not think about what might have been.  I act on what will be.
  5. My surroundings reflect my values and appreciation for beauty.
  6. A curious nature is my most valuable resource.  My most powerful tool is the right question.
  7. I do not think in terms of success or failure.  I think in terms of action and effort.
  8. A change of scenery is often the absolute best way to achieve a change of perspective.
  9. I invest time as a resource. I do not try to manage my time.  My priorities are how I determine how my time is spent.
  10. Creating value for others is the most important contribution I bring to the world.  I understand that I must focus on their need vs. just what I want to do to have significance.

When things seem a bit out of kilter, by going through these principals I can always find the one that brings everything else back into focus.

What would you put in your manifesto?

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Where are you on the changescape?

February 4, 2013 By
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The rules have changed.  In fact, just about everything has changed.  More importantly, everything is going to continue to change and at an accelerated rate.  That’s why it’s important for us to examine our perspective about change overall and see where we’re at on this new changescape.

Where would you rank yourself in this progression:

 

Level 1: ____I fear change.

Level 2: ____I tolerate change.

Level 3: ____I welcome change.

Level 4: ____I create change.

 

To be successful today, we must be creators. That means that innovation is a integral part of how we approach everything.  That includes not only WHAT we do, but also HOW we do it.  Let’s start by replacing the word change in our minds with the word growth or progress.

If this is a challenge for you, you may be wondering why are some so adept at change while others struggle.  Why do some people really win as creators while some of us are always hearing something and saying we could have done that?  It’s because sometimes we confuse creative thought with innovative action.  While creativity is part of the process, it is not what makes us a creator.  That requires us to act on our ideas. We can think of many new things and ways to do things.  It is only innovation when we apply that creativity to what or how something happens.

Those ideas can spark from seeing a problem and coming up with a solution or it can be the result of simply seeing a better way to do something already being done.  Think about yourself and the use of technology.  Isn’t it easier to adopt new technologies that make it simpler to do something you are already doing?  If we can anticipate need, create innovative answers, and develop an intuitive application we will bring significant value to all key audiences.  Then we are truly creators.  Think of five things you do today that you do differently than you did a year ago.  Did you fight that change?  Can you even imagine going back to the “old” way of doing things now?

We can all begin to transform ourselves into level 4 creators on the changescape scale just by finding one thing that we can improve through change.  Remember – not necessarily changing what we do, changing how we do it.  Then before we know it, we will be inspired to deepen that change and do more.

One more thought on change.  Sometimes change is as much about stopping as it is starting.  Be open about how to view what generates change.  In most cases, a small adjustment can deliver a significant difference.

These 3 questions are a great starting point:

What one thing could you STOP right now that would bring about change?

What one thing could you START right now that would bring about change?

What one thing could you DO DIFFERENTLY right now that would bring about change?

Select a specific area of your life where you would like to achieve a greater sense of satisfaction and significance and begin there.  Choose one question and get started today!  Put yourself in the lead on your own changescape.  Become the creator you were meant to be.

Thoughtful remarks about change (think growth!)….

“There’s a way to do it better –find it.” (Thomas Edison)

“It’s easy to come up with new ideas; the hard part is letting go of what worked for you two years ago but will soon be out of date.” (Roger von Oech)

“Do something everyday that scares you.” (Eleanor Roosevelt)

 

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Would Eleanor Roosevelt be on Twitter?

January 29, 2013 By
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eleanor_roosevelt“One thing life has taught me: if you are interested, you never have to look for new interests. They come to you. When you are genuinely interested in one thing, it will always lead to something else.  The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear. I think, at a child’s birth, if a mother could ask a fairy godmother to endow it with the most useful gift, that gift would be curiosity.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

One of my favorite “mentors” from history is Eleanor Roosevelt.  An important note about her role is that she was one of the first public “officials” to use mass media to talk about important issues such as civil rights; the rights of children and women; and the value of public service.  Because of that, there are many quotes attributed to her that remain relevant today.   She continues to inspire me and her words often find their way into my own writing and teachings.

I am drawn to her in part because even as she supported the rights of others, she never lost her passion for lifting up the importance of personal responsibility.  This is ultimately the game changer for anyone that aspires to live a life of significance.  Her innate curiosity also helps me see a kindred spirit in her.

If she lived today, there can be no doubt that she would be delighted with the power of Social Media and would be leveraging it to make meaningful and powerful change in the world.  I can well imagine I would be following her and re-tweeting everyday!

Here are ten pieces of “Eleanor” wisdom that are among my favorites that could be called “Eleanor’s Tweets”….

  1. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
  2. You can often change your circumstances by changing your attitude.
  3. With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.
  4. What could we accomplish if we knew we could not fail?
  5. Never allow a person to tell you no; who doesn’t have the power to say yes.
  6. Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.
  7. A stumbling block to the pessimist is a stepping-stone to the optimist.
  8. When you cease to make a contribution, you begin to die.
  9. Do one thing every day that scares you.
  10. Courage is exhilarating.

 

Hmmmm…. I may just have to send them out for her myself.

 

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