Quotes & questions: A powerful combination

I have always loved quotes.  My inner circle has even called me a quote junkie because I use them frequently in my communications and writing.  I recently experienced a day where a quote from the past and a question for today joined together to create a change catalyst for me. Has that ever happened for you?  You read something and then you experience that truth in a very real and vivid way.  It is one of the spiritual phenomenons that will bring me to my knees in gratitude every time.

The quote:  Mark Twain once said that “..The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”  Sounds rather simplistic but in fact, there is magic in those words.  One of the most challenging lessons I continue to learn is that progress will always trump perfection.  Continuous progress builds momentum and with momentum, we can transform a dream into reality.

The question:  A mentor asked me what I was willing to give up to realize a particular dream.  Always before the question was about what I was willing to do.  Now it shifted.  What was I willing to give up.  Finding the time to “start” was caught in a showdown between priorities.  I had to choose.  My answer?  I am ready to give up excuses. Because when it is all said and done, time isn’t the problem.  I am.  When asked why that was my choice I responded:  Because my excuses are holding me back from starting. Nothing else. And holding back from the start is robbing me of the finish line.  So to begin, that is what I must give up.  To finish, that is what I must give up.  Excuses.”

We never know when the words we hear or the questions we ask are going to be that “spark”.  Excuses weren’t something I even acknowledged before that conversation.  It wasn’t until that moment that I saw that the reasons were in fact just excuses.  The spark of change can be knowledge, insight, praise, even criticism.  But the outcome holds universal potential.  The right words at the right time can spell magic: if we allow it.

What quote from a thought leader have you heard recently that really resonated with you? What questions should you be asking related to that thought? The sounds bites can bring insight.  But when we really hear them and ask the right questions, they can also get us to action which is key.  I’m thinking of it as going from insight to incite. Let’s get started!

Welcome to our blog! Again!

One year and two months ago today our blog was born. It’s been an amazing year filled with things expected and things unplanned.  In other words – it’s been life as usual.I have been richly blessed over these past fourteen months as I’ve explored, written and shared with you here.   I was reminded yesterday speaking with a friend that it’s important sometimes to go back and just check in to see how we’re doing along the way.  As a result, I’ve been going back through some of the early posts.  When I came to the first post, it was a treat to see how even though so much has changed, what matters remains the same.

The message in this post is still what we are about.  Our values don’t change.  How we practice them might – but core values are here to stay.  I hope you enjoy the re-post.  (By the way – the young woman in the post has since had another daughter – Miss Keira!  Her Nana couldn’t be more delighted!)

——-Originally posted February 13, 2012————————–

Lauren_30Thank you for stopping by and joining the conversation. We look forward to engaging with you as together we discover new pathways to success.

To really embrace possibility, you have to first be willing to let go of anything (or anyone) that up until now you have allowed to limit you.

You know what I mean. Those silent (or not so silent!) “advisors” saying “you’ve never been able to do that before”, or “no one else has done that before”, or any other beliefs that forecast anything less than the best possibility of success.

It’s important though to understand that possibility thinking is not just about positive thinking.  It is not seeing everything through rose-colored glasses.  It is about not limiting your options and choices.  It considers all risks so that you can guard against them. But it greatly expands your available choices.  That’s why it works.

Let me share with you a story.

The photograph with this post is a great example of possibility thinking.  It was taken by a young woman on a trip last year to Yellowstone National Park in Wyoming.

While I love the image itself since it shows beauty growing in an unlikely place, the photographer is the real story.  Today she turned 30.  She is mother to a delightful 11-year-old daughter, wife to a wonderful and loving husband, a 4.0 GPA college graduate, and just recently had to take a break from her dance classes (ballet) while she’s expecting their second child.

What is remarkable about that?  The probabilities for her were much different.  Born at just 27 weeks (that’s nearly 3 months early!), she suffered hemorrhages in both eyes and her brain.  The doctors were not hopeful about her quality of life – IF she survived.  The picture they painted included significant learning disabilities and at best, only being able to walk with leg braces.  Also a good chance she would be blind.  Wow!  What made the outcome so different? Love, prayer and perseverance? Yes. Absolutely.  But what stimulated those?  The belief that there was another possible outcome.

This is a personal quest for me.  She’s my daughter.  For the last 30 years we have lived and grown in the land of possibility.  And the rewards have been nothing less than miraculous.

What probabilities are you accepting without considering that something else is possible?

Possibility Art.. worth more than 1,000 words..

Ever wonder what outside the box thinking looks like?  Check it out.  Now you know!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Start from where you are… create a new path.  That’s possibility thinking.

Is it a pencil or a masterpiece in the making?

This story was sent to me by a friend.  It came with a number of pictures that were amazing.  But it was the parable that resonated.  There was no credit given to the artist or the author in the e-mail and my searches have only found others that shared it.  But to the artist and author I pay homage – even if you remain anonymous because this is a great life lesson.  Take from this what you are meant to hear:

PencilA pencil maker told the pencil five important lessons just before placing it in the box:

1)  Everything you do will always leave a mark.

2)  You can always correct the mistakes you make.

3)  What is important is what is inside of you.

4)  You will experience painful sharpenings, but they will make you better.

5)  To be the best pencil, you must allow yourself to be guided.

My thoughts on this…

The parable can be that we are the pencil or it can be that we might be the hand that holds another.  Either way, the truths here remain.

  • Everything we do is the cause for an effect.  For ourselves and for others.  Every thought, word and action leaves a mark.
  • There is no mistake that cannot be corrected.  It cannot always be reversed or removed, but it can be corrected.  And what might appear at first to be a mistake, can also be the pivot point for a new image in the hand of the master.
  • Our value comes from inside of us.  And we all have value.  We all matter.
  • Throughout life, our value may be covered by protective shells that need to be whittled away so that our inner glory can shine.  Those sharpening can be painful but they are mean to reveal our purpose and allow us to grow.
  • On our own, we will never achieve our best.  We need to allow ourselves to be guided and to also be willing to guide.

Just a pencil?  No indeed.  Any more than we are just a person.  We are both a masterpiece – now and in the making!

 

Are we there yet?

A phrase from childhood.  What does that make you think of?  Remember when getting to the next place was so exciting you just could not wait?  Sometimes in life we can forget that getting to the next place is not always what’s important.  Sometimes it’s the journey.

Both of my parents were born and raised in West Virginia.  My father was a Marine and served in the Korean War.  When he returned and they married, they were faced with the decision of where to build their life together and raise their own family.  At the time, the area where their families lived did not offer much in terms of job prospects and the “boom” of their time was in the Great Lakes region in factories and industrial plants.  And so they embarked on that leg of their journey.

Both of my parents were determined to create a family centered life that offered love, security and opportunities based on education and service.  They worked hard to achieve their dream and were always seeking out a way to learn more and give more.  My Dad worked in a factory on the second shift.  Because the job wasn’t all that challenging for him mentally, he saved money to be able to buy a small portable radio to break the monotony of the time.  And he listened and learned from Earl Nightingale.  He also put what he learned into action.  As a result, the factory life didn’t last long.

He was a good mechanic.  Probably a great mechanic.  So he opened a garage and specialized in fixing foreign-made cars.  He understood the value of scarcity and integrity.  He built a business around those principles.

In that time, garages or service stations as we called them were independently owned and they had contracts with the oil companies to sell particular brands of fuel.  When those companies decided to own the gas stations themselves, business owners such as my Dad were faced with either going to work for them or finding a new venture.  For my Dad, it was clear that he would find his next venture.  A friend of the family had already relocated to Texas and was working with the company that would bring Caterpillar equipment into the region.  When he found out my Dad was looking for an opportunity, he knew he had the right one for him.  And he did.  So once again, my family relocated – this time to Texas.  And once again my Dad’s integrity, ability to work with people and to recognize every opportunity to generate value for a customer brought the next season of success.

As you can see, in our home, the highest values other than family and faith were hard work, education and service.  Those values remain with me now.  And those are the values I have worked to instill in the next generations coming up behind me.  But the other message of this story is that quite often, moving on is essential to finding the next opportunity.  There does not have to be fear about it because the important things, the ones that matter, go with us as we progress on the journey.

No, we are not there yet.  Perhaps we never will be.  I tend to think of destinations now rather like perfection.  Somewhat of a delusion.  Rather I like to think of them as stops along the way.  It’s about the journey and taking each opportunity as it shows itself.  Always remaining true to our core values while allowing ourselves to grow.   One of my favorite thoughts on this subject comes from Andrew McCarthy – actor turned travel writer and publisher:

“There’s a certain moment in every memorable journey, often recognized only in hindsight, when the trip you are on presents itself, and the one you thought you were taking or had planned is jettisoned. It’s then that you begin really traveling, not merely touring.”

In closing, I’ll borrow from Shakespeare – someone who certainly understood the art of possibility within the journey.

“To unpathed waters, undreamed shores.”

Behind the quote: A science fiction writer on change

FreedomIn 1995, Octavia E. Butler was the first science fiction writer to receive the MacArthur Foundation “Genius” Grant. Impressive.

She’s also been the recipient of both Hugo and Nebula awards. Very impressive.

As an African-American woman, she also brings great insight about change.

Yes – she can definitely teach us about change.

Leveraging her ability to tell a gripping story, she has been one of its greatest champions.

Here are her thoughts on the subject:

“All that you touch You Change. All that you Change Changes you.. The only lasting truth is Change. God is Change.”

A remarkable woman. A remarkable truth.

A compelling thought to take with us into our own lives.