Quotes & questions: A powerful combination

I have always loved quotes.  My inner circle has even called me a quote junkie because I use them frequently in my communications and writing.  I recently experienced a day where a quote from the past and a question for today joined together to create a change catalyst for me. Has that ever happened for you?  You read something and then you experience that truth in a very real and vivid way.  It is one of the spiritual phenomenons that will bring me to my knees in gratitude every time.

The quote:  Mark Twain once said that “..The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”  Sounds rather simplistic but in fact, there is magic in those words.  One of the most challenging lessons I continue to learn is that progress will always trump perfection.  Continuous progress builds momentum and with momentum, we can transform a dream into reality.

The question:  A mentor asked me what I was willing to give up to realize a particular dream.  Always before the question was about what I was willing to do.  Now it shifted.  What was I willing to give up.  Finding the time to “start” was caught in a showdown between priorities.  I had to choose.  My answer?  I am ready to give up excuses. Because when it is all said and done, time isn’t the problem.  I am.  When asked why that was my choice I responded:  Because my excuses are holding me back from starting. Nothing else. And holding back from the start is robbing me of the finish line.  So to begin, that is what I must give up.  To finish, that is what I must give up.  Excuses.”

We never know when the words we hear or the questions we ask are going to be that “spark”.  Excuses weren’t something I even acknowledged before that conversation.  It wasn’t until that moment that I saw that the reasons were in fact just excuses.  The spark of change can be knowledge, insight, praise, even criticism.  But the outcome holds universal potential.  The right words at the right time can spell magic: if we allow it.

What quote from a thought leader have you heard recently that really resonated with you? What questions should you be asking related to that thought? The sounds bites can bring insight.  But when we really hear them and ask the right questions, they can also get us to action which is key.  I’m thinking of it as going from insight to incite. Let’s get started!

Behind the quote: Ralph Waldo Emerson

He remains one of the most influential and quoted writers of 19th century America.

What is interesting is that some of his most successful writings did not begin in fact as essays, they started out as speeches he gave to audiences and later published. 

Another notable point is that he was an early “self-publisher”.  He delivered an address to the Phi Beta Kappa Society at Cambridge in 1837 which ultimately became the work known as “The American Scholar”. 

At the urging of friends, he published it himself at his own expense. 

He also wrote his own musings in journals and it was his influence that resulted in Thoreau also starting to journal.  The Harvard University Press has published his journals in 16 volumes and some believe it contains some of his best work.  That’s not surprising to me given that the creative freedom of personal journals does often result in bursts of brilliance for most writers.

Another point worth mentioning is that he was also one of the early adopters of lecture “series” and he found that by approaching the market as a lecturer in this format gave him a much higher return financially.  At one point he was doing as many as 80 series a year and traveling a great deal.

When Walt Whitman first published his signature work Leaves of Grass, he sent a copy to Emerson for an opinion – perhaps an early “review”.  When he received a positive response, it stirred up market interest as well and a second edition was published.

What is the significance of all of this? It gives us insight into who he was and how he operated.  It helps put the quotes we have attributed to him within a context that makes them more crystallized.  It also speaks to the fact that success leaves clues.  Why do we still after nearly 200 years quote Emerson’s writings? Because he didn’t just write words.  He discussed ideas and presented new thoughts.  He delivered his message across different medias.  And he supported the work of others. His own private writings and observations of life in his world remain salient now.  One of my favorites of his thoughts is that “..The measure of a master is his success in bringing all men around to his opinion twenty years later.”

Our legacies are what live beyond us. In that respect, we are no different from Emerson. Although I have many fundamental philosophical differences with the man, in many areas his philosophies do resonate with me. Perhaps they will with you, too. 

Emerson on using new experiences as a way to put the past behind us:

Be not the slave of your own past. Plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep and swim far, so you shall come back with self-respect, with new power, with an advanced experience that shall explain and overlook the old.

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.

Emerson on our individual uniqueness:

Insist on yourself; never imitate… Every great man is unique.

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.

None of us will ever accomplish anything excellent or commanding except when he listens to this whisper which is heard by him alone.

Emerson on character:

People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of their character.

What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear what you say.

And my own personal favorites:

This time, like all times, is a very good one, if we but know what to do with it.

Our chief want in life is somebody who shall make us do what we can.

The reward of a thing well done is to have done it.

And in closing, what would he say about this blog post? Perhaps he would say again: “…I hate quotations.  Tell me what you know.”  I love that.

Are we there yet?

A phrase from childhood.  What does that make you think of?  Remember when getting to the next place was so exciting you just could not wait?  Sometimes in life we can forget that getting to the next place is not always what’s important.  Sometimes it’s the journey.

Both of my parents were born and raised in West Virginia.  My father was a Marine and served in the Korean War.  When he returned and they married, they were faced with the decision of where to build their life together and raise their own family.  At the time, the area where their families lived did not offer much in terms of job prospects and the “boom” of their time was in the Great Lakes region in factories and industrial plants.  And so they embarked on that leg of their journey.

Both of my parents were determined to create a family centered life that offered love, security and opportunities based on education and service.  They worked hard to achieve their dream and were always seeking out a way to learn more and give more.  My Dad worked in a factory on the second shift.  Because the job wasn’t all that challenging for him mentally, he saved money to be able to buy a small portable radio to break the monotony of the time.  And he listened and learned from Earl Nightingale.  He also put what he learned into action.  As a result, the factory life didn’t last long.

He was a good mechanic.  Probably a great mechanic.  So he opened a garage and specialized in fixing foreign-made cars.  He understood the value of scarcity and integrity.  He built a business around those principles.

In that time, garages or service stations as we called them were independently owned and they had contracts with the oil companies to sell particular brands of fuel.  When those companies decided to own the gas stations themselves, business owners such as my Dad were faced with either going to work for them or finding a new venture.  For my Dad, it was clear that he would find his next venture.  A friend of the family had already relocated to Texas and was working with the company that would bring Caterpillar equipment into the region.  When he found out my Dad was looking for an opportunity, he knew he had the right one for him.  And he did.  So once again, my family relocated – this time to Texas.  And once again my Dad’s integrity, ability to work with people and to recognize every opportunity to generate value for a customer brought the next season of success.

As you can see, in our home, the highest values other than family and faith were hard work, education and service.  Those values remain with me now.  And those are the values I have worked to instill in the next generations coming up behind me.  But the other message of this story is that quite often, moving on is essential to finding the next opportunity.  There does not have to be fear about it because the important things, the ones that matter, go with us as we progress on the journey.

No, we are not there yet.  Perhaps we never will be.  I tend to think of destinations now rather like perfection.  Somewhat of a delusion.  Rather I like to think of them as stops along the way.  It’s about the journey and taking each opportunity as it shows itself.  Always remaining true to our core values while allowing ourselves to grow.   One of my favorite thoughts on this subject comes from Andrew McCarthy – actor turned travel writer and publisher:

“There’s a certain moment in every memorable journey, often recognized only in hindsight, when the trip you are on presents itself, and the one you thought you were taking or had planned is jettisoned. It’s then that you begin really traveling, not merely touring.”

In closing, I’ll borrow from Shakespeare – someone who certainly understood the art of possibility within the journey.

“To unpathed waters, undreamed shores.”

Honesty & Integrity: Where it all begins..

When someone holds the torch for us so that we can clearly see our way, they give us a gift beyond anything they or we could imagine.  They give us the opportunity to see truth.

One person who has done that for so many is Debbie Ford.  Sadly, we lost her physical light in 2013 but her legacy light lives on.

For me, this short clip from her on honesty and integrity sums up the foundation of her message very clearly.  We must first be honest with ourselves.  And only then can we love ourselves.  Our total self.  Her voice and teachings have raised thousands to an unparalleled level of spiritual and personal awareness.

She learned to live in peace and love.  For herself and her world.  I have no doubt that she will continue on the same way.

Godspeed Debbie Ford.

Where are you on the changescape?

The rules have changed.  In fact, just about everything has changed.  More importantly, everything is going to continue to change and at an accelerated rate.  That’s why it’s important for us to examine our perspective about change overall and see where we’re at on this new changescape.

Where would you rank yourself in this progression:

 

Level 1: ____I fear change.

Level 2: ____I tolerate change.

Level 3: ____I welcome change.

Level 4: ____I create change.

 

To be successful today, we must be creators. That means that innovation is a integral part of how we approach everything.  That includes not only WHAT we do, but also HOW we do it.  Let’s start by replacing the word change in our minds with the word growth or progress.

If this is a challenge for you, you may be wondering why are some so adept at change while others struggle.  Why do some people really win as creators while some of us are always hearing something and saying we could have done that?  It’s because sometimes we confuse creative thought with innovative action.  While creativity is part of the process, it is not what makes us a creator.  That requires us to act on our ideas. We can think of many new things and ways to do things.  It is only innovation when we apply that creativity to what or how something happens.

Those ideas can spark from seeing a problem and coming up with a solution or it can be the result of simply seeing a better way to do something already being done.  Think about yourself and the use of technology.  Isn’t it easier to adopt new technologies that make it simpler to do something you are already doing?  If we can anticipate need, create innovative answers, and develop an intuitive application we will bring significant value to all key audiences.  Then we are truly creators.  Think of five things you do today that you do differently than you did a year ago.  Did you fight that change?  Can you even imagine going back to the “old” way of doing things now?

We can all begin to transform ourselves into level 4 creators on the changescape scale just by finding one thing that we can improve through change.  Remember – not necessarily changing what we do, changing how we do it.  Then before we know it, we will be inspired to deepen that change and do more.

One more thought on change.  Sometimes change is as much about stopping as it is starting.  Be open about how to view what generates change.  In most cases, a small adjustment can deliver a significant difference.

These 3 questions are a great starting point:

What one thing could you STOP right now that would bring about change?

What one thing could you START right now that would bring about change?

What one thing could you DO DIFFERENTLY right now that would bring about change?

Select a specific area of your life where you would like to achieve a greater sense of satisfaction and significance and begin there.  Choose one question and get started today!  Put yourself in the lead on your own changescape.  Become the creator you were meant to be.

Thoughtful remarks about change (think growth!)….

“There’s a way to do it better –find it.” (Thomas Edison)

“It’s easy to come up with new ideas; the hard part is letting go of what worked for you two years ago but will soon be out of date.” (Roger von Oech)

“Do something everyday that scares you.” (Eleanor Roosevelt)

 

Would Eleanor Roosevelt be on Twitter?

eleanor_roosevelt“One thing life has taught me: if you are interested, you never have to look for new interests. They come to you. When you are genuinely interested in one thing, it will always lead to something else.  The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear. I think, at a child’s birth, if a mother could ask a fairy godmother to endow it with the most useful gift, that gift would be curiosity.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

One of my favorite “mentors” from history is Eleanor Roosevelt.  An important note about her role is that she was one of the first public “officials” to use mass media to talk about important issues such as civil rights; the rights of children and women; and the value of public service.  Because of that, there are many quotes attributed to her that remain relevant today.   She continues to inspire me and her words often find their way into my own writing and teachings.

I am drawn to her in part because even as she supported the rights of others, she never lost her passion for lifting up the importance of personal responsibility.  This is ultimately the game changer for anyone that aspires to live a life of significance.  Her innate curiosity also helps me see a kindred spirit in her.

If she lived today, there can be no doubt that she would be delighted with the power of Social Media and would be leveraging it to make meaningful and powerful change in the world.  I can well imagine I would be following her and re-tweeting everyday!

Here are ten pieces of “Eleanor” wisdom that are among my favorites that could be called “Eleanor’s Tweets”….

  1. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
  2. You can often change your circumstances by changing your attitude.
  3. With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.
  4. What could we accomplish if we knew we could not fail?
  5. Never allow a person to tell you no; who doesn’t have the power to say yes.
  6. Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.
  7. A stumbling block to the pessimist is a stepping-stone to the optimist.
  8. When you cease to make a contribution, you begin to die.
  9. Do one thing every day that scares you.
  10. Courage is exhilarating.

 

Hmmmm…. I may just have to send them out for her myself.